6 Things Filipina Hates in the Bedroom – Thoughts From A Traditional Filipina Woman
Filipino women, especially those from traditional backgrounds, can have different preferences and dislikes when it comes to intimacy in the bedroom. While every individual is unique, there are some common themes that emerge amongst traditional Filipinas. In this article, we will explore 6 key things many traditional Filipina women hate in the bedroom, providing cultural context and insights from real Filipina women. Understanding these perspectives can help build stronger intimate connections.
1. Lights On
Many traditional Filipina women strongly prefer having the lights off during intimate moments. There are a few key reasons behind this:
Firstly, there is a cultural element of modesty at play. Having the lights on means being fully exposed and visible, which can feel uncomfortable and embarrassing for some Filipinas during such vulnerable moments. They feel too self-conscious with the lights on, making it hard to relax and get in the mood.
Secondly, having the lights off helps some Filipinas focus purely on the physical sensations and intimacy. With the lights off, they don’t have any visual distractions and can immerse themselves fully in the intimate experience. The darkness provides a sense of mystery and excitement.
Lastly, for inexperienced Filipinas especially, turning the lights off provides a sense of comfort and privacy. It eases their shyness and hesitations about being fully intimate with their partner. Many share that they simply feel more uninhibited and confident to express their sexuality with the lights off.
2. Anal Sex
Many traditional Filipina women are strongly opposed to anal sex. There are a few cultural taboos around anal sex that fuel this dislike:
Firstly, anal sex is associated with homosexuality in the Philippines. Since Filipinas have female anatomy, engaging in something seen as homosexual is considered degrading.
Secondly, there is a stigma around anal sex being ‘dirty’ and ‘unsanitary’. Traditional Filipinas have reservations about the hygiene aspects.
Lastly, some Filipinas feel anal sex is disrespectful and degrading to women. They see their own female anatomy as something to cherish, not degrade. For some, it evokes feelings that their partners don’t fully appreciate their femininity.
However, attitudes are gradually changing, especially among younger and more sexually open-minded Filipinas. But for most traditional Filipinas, anal sex remains a hard ‘no’. Mutual understanding around this delicate topic is key.
3. Being Fully Naked
Many Filipinas shy away from being fully naked in front of their partner, even during intimacy. There are a few reasons for this:
Firstly, there are strong cultural taboos around nudity in the Philippines. Being naked in front of another is seen as something only done with a spouse. So for unmarried couples, it can feel embarrassing.
Secondly, for inexperienced Filipinas, being fully naked makes them feel extremely self-conscious. Years of modesty have made nudity feel very vulnerable. They feel like parts of their body would be judged.
Lastly, for some Filipinas, nudity is something they feel should be earned by their partner over time. Until there is complete trust and comfort, they prefer keeping some clothing on or staying under the sheets. It takes time to overcome their shyness.
However, with comfort, intimacy and assurance from their partner, most Filipinas gradually become more confident being naked during sex. But it’s important to let this unfold at her pace rather than pushing nudity.
4. Condoms
Many Filipinas express dislike or aversion to condom use during sex. There are a few factors behind this:
Some Filipinas in committed relationships prefer flesh-on-flesh contact during sex. They want to feel their partner directly without barriers like condoms. For them, it creates closer intimacy.
Additionally, some Filipinas find condoms reduce physical pleasure during sex. The textures and friction feel less stimulating. So there is a motivation to maximize pleasure by avoiding condoms.
There are also financial considerations, as condoms can be expensive for poorer couples. Some prefer alternate contraceptives which they feel are more economical.
Moreover, lack of sex education leads some Filipinas to underestimate the importance of safe sex and condom use. This results in risky unprotected sex.
However, attitudes are gradually shifting, especially among better educated and urban Filipinas. Using protection is increasingly seen as responsible, not just for contraception but STI prevention too.
5. Oral Sex
While attitudes are changing, many traditional Filipinas remain uncomfortable with oral sex. A few cultural factors play into this:
Firstly, oral sex is seen as more intimate than traditional sex. The mouth is seen as a ‘sacred’ part of the body, so oral sex can feel taboo.
Secondly, hygiene taboos come into play, especially around fellatio. The mouth coming into contact with genitals is seen as unclean by some Filipinas.
Lastly, some Filipinas have concerns about taste, smell and ‘gagging’. Oral sex seems more daunting.
However, amongst younger and more sexually progressive Filipinas, oral sex is fast losing stigma. Education around safe oral practices is helping ease reservations. More and more Filipinas are recognizing oral sex as a normal, enjoyable part of intimate relationships.
6. Sex Toys
Many traditional Filipinas prefer to avoid introducing sex toys into the bedroom. There are a few reasons behind this:
Some feel toys are unnecessary – they would rather focus intimacy on their partner’s body versus external objects. Toys are seen as distractions.
Others have concerns about cleanliness and hygiene around sex toys. Sharing toys can feel unhygienic.
More traditionally minded Filipinas can also view toys as ‘indecent’. It conflicts with more conservative perspectives on intimacy.
However, amongst Filipinas who do embrace them, sex toys are seen as healthy additions for spicing up intimacy and enhancing couples’ pleasure. But for most traditional Filipinas, toys are still taboo in the bedroom.
Conclusion
While intimacy preferences are deeply personal, understanding cultural context helps build meaningful intimate connections. Traditional Filipina women often have different perspectives from their partners on things like nudity, oral sex or toys. Mutual understanding, patience and open communication are key to reconcile differences. This helps couples achieve more fulfilling intimacy aligned with both partners’ values.
